Is pain from the way you were treated in the past affecting
your life and relationships now?
Are you currently in an abusive relationship or coming out of
one and want to rebuild your life?
Are you witnessing someone close to you being abused
and finding it hard to let it go?
If the answer is yes to one of those, you are in the right place. Whilst you can struggle through it alone, you don’t have to anymore…
There are so many of us suffering in our adult lives and relationships because of things that we went through as child.
This does not always mean the abuse has happened to us, witnessing a parent being abused will also have an impact on our relationships, health and overall success in life. We can also be abused by neglect having an alcoholic or drug dependent parent or partner for example.
The way I was emotionally, physically and spiritually hurt as child affected all of my life choices and it’s our choices in life that determine our destiny. For this reason clearing abuse from the past and loving ourselves fully is a necessary to lead a fulfilling, free and fun-filled life.
It was only after I took steps to heal the past and let go of the baggage I was carrying that I was able to break the cycle of self-hate, picking emotionally unavailable partners, and get relief from my addictions and anxiety.
Well-meaning friends and family may tell us to “let it go” or to “not live in the past” Which may seem like good advice, but if you have ever tried it, it’s useless.
The thing about emotional wounds and abuse from the past is that unless released through actions and healing work it affects every area of our life. I had no idea that the reason behind my workaholism, daily drinking, compulsive over-eating and self-criticism was a way to cover up loneliness, not feeling good enough stemming from scars of the past I had not dealt with. I could have easily carried on numbing my way through life, but something inside me wanted more, knew I was worth more than living a mediocre life and having strained relationships.
I experienced cycling negative thoughts, feeling lonely and relationship drama as a result of the past, so I know how PAINFUL, FRUSTRATING, & ANNOYING it can be.
And... I too reached the point of being DONE with this pattern.
That's when everything changed in my life and abundance flowed to me from all directions.
My food, weight and body obsession of 20 years left me and is still gone.
I attracted more compliments, gifts and acts of kindness from friends, family and men, left, right and centre.
I healed my body and my habitual drinking every night faded away.
My thinking became clearer and I gained clarity on my future and life purpose.
In less than 8 weeks my financial concerns started to disappear.
New unique opportunities and invitations to spread this message on TV, radio, and conferences kept flying in.
You will leave this powerful session with:
My partner was being emotionally abusive to me and my daughter and I could not decide whether to stay or leave the marriage. I loved him but no long had it in me to accept his constant complaining and emotional abuse. I booked a free marriage consultation with Nicola mainly to discuss the marriage, however during the call I realised that what I really needed was to work on myself. I was constantly putting myself down, I didn’t trust or like myself. I was putting all my happiness onto my husband. I had stopped seeing my friends, exercising and taking time for me. I had forgotten about me and the more I tried to please my husband the more I lost myself. When Nicola and I worked on re-designing my life and relationships according to my values and what I wanted to accomplish in the next 1,3 and 5 years in the VIP Virtual day I felt excited and driven, something which I never remember feeling before. My husband changed when I became stronger too, he didn’t like the change at first after a while though he came round to it and now we have a more equal partnership. I am most pleased that I am a better role model for our daughter, showing her to not take emotional abuse and to stand for what you want.
I booked Nicola’s 3-day relationship healing intensive because I wanted to get out of my abusive marriage. My husband was an abusive alcoholic that was still in denial and refused to get help. I was crushed because I had no idea how to pick up the strength to leave. Nicola did not give me advice or tell me to leave, instead she worked with me to boost my confidence and self-worth, to redesign my life as to what was important to me and we mapped out a strategy to overcome my fears so I could move forward. I needed someone who wouldn’t judge me to help me plan my future. It was an amazing 3-days, we addressed every single one of my fears, I felt focused and clear after. My confidence grew enough for me to follow my plans to leave and protect myself and son. I am so grateful, I am now the happiest I have ever been. If you are suffering from living with an alcoholic I recommend you get help to get out, goodness knows how long I would be stuck there without Nicola’s support.
I had been single for 11 years before signing up with Nicola, I could no longer pretend to myself that I could not meet the right person and accepted that it had to be me. I took her VIP Virtual day as I wanted fast results, then after enjoying the outcome so much, invested in the 8 week coaching package after. I was a complete workaholic, never making time for relationships even though I did want to have a family of my own. My finances and life were out of control because I also liked to spend all my money and invest in different things, that with hindsight didn’t make any sense. I knew Nicola had beaten several addictive patterns including breaking free from workaholism, so I signed up to see if she could help me get balance and love in my life. I did not need matchmaking, I needed guidance to stay in relationships and not cancel on all my dates by putting work first. The journey was eye-opening and liberating. Only when you see what patterns you are doing to avoid relationships can you address them. What I loved about working with Nicola is her down to earth approach, you can tell her anything and she will not judge you.
I was sexually abused as a child but had forgotten about it. Pushed it away I guess. Memories started coming back to me though a few years ago and it was really blackening my world. My partner did not know what to say or do, I felt disgusting and like damaged goods. I could not shift this feeling of disgust and found it hard to concentrate. Sometimes I would doubt myself and question what happened, because the repressed memories were not often clear. Through working with Nicola I was able to see that I am not disgusting, that it was not my fault and that I am loveable. Several clearing sessions helped me to see that I had been hating myself all of this time and played out this hate in my sex life by giving it away as a teenager and then later refusing intimacy all together. For many years I’d only cry about it when I was drunk or saw something on TV that triggered it. I never thought about healing the wounds years later, until I found Nicola and learnt of the importance of working through the past to have a brighter future. It was not always easy, thankfully Nicola’s compassion and support made me feel at ease and realise my true beauty. I can honestly say that the time I spent with Nicola gave me back my life, I would probably have lost the man I love and still be suffering.
After years of verbal abuse and subsequent low self-esteem, I took steps to protect and look after my needs for the first time in my life. I was not sure if the program would work for me but it did, best decision I ever made as now I feel unburdened and free
If you are struggling from an abusive relationship
with a parent, partner or friend or have been abused in the past and want to have the tools to let it go and redesign your life. Book a free call with me to explore further. I cannot tell you what the results will be when you invest in releasing the trauma of the past, however I can share my experience and testimonials and examples of the miracles I have seen take place in others.
It is a 3-step process restoring love energy, clearing old energy, and redesigning relationships. The journey we take together is both deep and transformational. I will support you to release the past and set some action steps towards greater freedom and happiness.
Every situation is unique so in the free breakthrough session, we can discuss what different tools and techniques can help you. Or if you want to read up on the tools beforehand you can here.
Below are a list of my credentials
Nicola Beer is an Eating, Family and Relationship Specialist. Services include marriage coaching an alternative to marriage counselling, divorce coaching, grief counselling, anger management, healing from abuse and self-esteem boosting. Eating support includes helping men and women to have freedom from bulimia, anorexia, compulsive, comfort, binge and emotional eating. She also runs a relationship coaching certification training and business mentorship program for those that want to start or grow a healing or life coaching business. She is a US certified grief recovery specialist, counselor, life coach and hypnotherapist online or UAE & Saudi Arabia (Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Riyadh, Jeddah Khobar, Damman)
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