Grief Counselling

Experiencing the death of a loved one is never easy or the same,

no matter what the circumstances or age they died.

If your heart has broken, you do not know what to do with yourself and everyone around you

keeps on saying unhelpful or hurtful things. Then you may want to consider having

some grief and bereavement counselling to help you through this painful time.

Grief is a natural and normal reaction to loss and although
it can be similar to the symptoms of depression.

As a UK certified grief recovery specialist there are many things that do not help in recovering from the death of a loved one. In society, we are far better prepared to deal with minor accidents than we are to deal with grief and loss. We receive more education about simple first aid than we do about bereavement.


One of them is time will heal. This is a myth, it’s unhelpful advice for dealing with grief and death of a loved one. All time does is pass. Time can not heal wounds, memories can fade but many find the pain doesn’t fade. I know people who have waited 1, 2, 5 and even 15 years to feel better and they don’t. The only thing that works is action, action to work through the feelings associated with the grief, like anger, sadness, regret, guilt, and remorse.


Another piece of advice you may hear that often doesn’t help is the idea that someone grieving needs to keep busy. All keeping busy does is distract you and forces you to push the emotions down. If all we do is distract ourselves from feeling the natural emotions of grief we cannot process the pain and will end up carrying the pain with us. To recover from losing a parent, brother, sister, husband, wife or child we need a safe environment to express our feelings and learn the necessary actions to complete what is left emotionally unfinished.

By emotionally unfinished I mean the things that you wish you had said or done differently, the regrets or guilt for past actions or in actions that may be plaguing you or anger can sometimes be intense. Anger at the injustice, life or others.

The third thing that many people say to someone in the pain of grief and loss is “be strong” it’s unhelpful because it is impossible to do. You can either be human or you can be strong.

Everyone experiences the grief of losing a loved one differently, you may feel numb, bitter, drained, lonely and unable to process simple bits of information. You may be expected to keep it all together and put on a brave face, yet all this does is add to the pain when we feel like we have to fake it.

If you want to know how I help individuals and families through bereavement click the button below to book a free 30-minute grief counselling conversation where we can discuss.

In the grief recovery bereavement counselling, you will understand the grief and loss symptoms and recovery steps, how to reduce the pain, new ways to restore peace and let go of any regret or remorse.

What is grief counselling

and grief recovery?

The grief and bereavement counselling I offer follows a set structure learned in my grief and loss recovery certification program. It gives your heart permission to feel the various emotions and express freely what is running through your mind, whether that is conversations you had or wished you had. It is also letting go of any guilt, regret and wishing things were different.


It is important to relive yourself from any kind of self-judgment on how you are reacting or coping to the grief and loss. I support individuals and families to with the transition as your heart heals.

Bereavement may cause you to:

  • Lose concentration
  • Lower your immunity
  • Sleep less
  • Change eating habits
  • Lose energy
  • Lose your liveliness

Grief recovery is not something you can set your clock to. Some people recover faster than others and there is no right answer. For some people it is measured days or weeks for others it is measured in, months, or even years. Over time, the memories may blur but you need to be sure that you do not push the pain deeper by criticizing yourself, harming yourself or by being strong dealing with it alone.

If you want to know how I help individuals and families through bereavement click the button below to book a free 30 minute grief counselling conversation where we can discuss.

In the grief recovery bereavement counselling, you will understand the grief and loss symptoms and recovery steps, how to reduce the pain, new ways to restore peace and let go of any regret or remorse.

If you want to try a grief counselling session with no obligation at all after that click below to speak to me. Or you are a concerned family member and want to ask questions you are also welcome to book a time with me using the link below

Nicola Beer is an Eating, Family and Relationship Specialist. Services include marriage coaching an alternative to marriage counselling, divorce coaching, grief counselling, anger management, healing from abuse and self-esteem boosting. Eating support includes helping men and women to have  freedom from bulimia, anorexia, compulsive, comfort, binge and emotional eating. She also runs a relationship coaching certification training and business mentorship program for those that want to start or grow a healing or life coaching business. She is a US certified grief recovery specialist, counselor, life coach and hypnotherapist online or UAE & Saudi Arabia (Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Riyadh, Jeddah Khobar, Damman)

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